Long Weekends...

One thing about not drinking is that you don’t get invited to long weekend getaways very often.  I mean, sober people don’t really do this so much.  I mean they do, but not anyone I know.  I think it tends to be more of a couple thing and most of the sober people I know and am friends with are single...

I have always had friends who drink but, usually, I am not invited to the long weekend getaways or want to go if I am invited. But I have one group of friends who have an annual Memorial Day party at their house up North and I am invited every year, although this is the first year I am going.  Going to all couple weekends is kind of a drag sometimes.  I usually feel like the odd woman out.  But I have gotten over that and have learned to embrace the fact that I am just on this solitary journey, perhaps forever, but definitely right now and I am not going to let my singular status prevent me from having a fun weekend with people I really love.  I mean they don’t give a fuck that I am single...why should I?  It isn’t like any of us can magically change it.

So this afternoon I will head north with another girlfriend who isn’t single but will be solo this weekend and we will relish our solo status and be roomies.  I am so looking forward to Chloe time!  I don’t get to spend enough time with her!

I see these types of weekends all over social media and I won’t lie and say that I haven’t envied them a bit.  It feels so, I don’t know, adult.  And I often still feel so adolescent.  I mean this weekend has plans, a menu and events!  Like a loose schedule so that everyone doesn’t just sit around going, “what do you want to do?”  And the hosts are amazing cooks so I know that the food will be amazing!

I am really looking forward to the time away and the feeling that I can’t shake like I have finally arrived in adulthood.   A long weekend away with other adults doing adult things like boating and wine tasting. I will enjoy the fuck out of the boating and will skip the wine in wine tasting but I am sure I will enjoy the atmosphere and company.  None of them care that I am sober and do not drink.  And I am grateful to be able to provide sober rides, if needed.  I mean the line between adulthood and carried away is a fine one!

I am looking forward to a nice dinner out Saturday night also.  Again, I just feel so grown up!  This is a weekend that I actually need to bring outfits for and it feels fun and so out of character for my life.  It is good that I go away with others and leave the cats to watch TV on the couch without me...I mean, they will miss me and I them, but we can resume our normal evenings after the long weekend!

More than anything it is nice to be included.  It is nice to be invited.  It is lovely that I have a group of friends to do things like this with...there are just some couples that bring people together and Tony and Elizabeth are that couple. And I am grateful to be the honorary single person in the sea of couples.  

I will report back next week but am planning on having an absolutely fabulous time!  Boating, fine dining, wine tasting (not really), and socializing.  What a nice way to spend a long weekend: hanging with cool people doing things that I normally do not do.  So good for me to get out of my comfort zone and stretch in the direction of others.

Again, still...